the ethics of baby naming


do you have names picked out for your children before even being aware of their existence? do you keep them written somewhere? do you keep these names secret for fear that a friend will steal your name? i used to do all of these things. funny though that neither eleanor's name nor the one we have picked for baby brother are on those lists.

we struggled for a while with a name for this little man but finally settled on one a couple of months ago. we talk to him, refer to him, and tell eleanor about him using his name. so to us it's who he is. and here, friends, is our dilemma...

friends had their baby a few weeks ago and named him the name we have chosen. so what do we do? do we keep the name that we know him as or do we start over? help!